What to expect when dating a military man
And it always starts with the same feelings of confusion, hesitation and attraction.And women, by nature are completely helpless in such circumstances.But why do women fall into this trap in the first place?Dating a married man Indulging in a relationship with married men is confusing, but almost all the experiences that come with it feel the same.Some people opine that men are less attracted to a woman who is on an equal or higher level when it comes to matters of the pocketbook or education, and that a successful woman should dumb herself down to get a man.My time in the world of dating and relationships, both personally (as a former serial dater) and professionally (as a columnist, host and now a dating coach), has taught me that these conclusions, for the most part, are fallacies, the aforementioned girl-power refrain a line women repeat when they don't want to tell each other or themselves to look inward or at their dating behaviors or their choices in men.Expect sleepless nights, and bouts of being on the receiving end of awkward silences. You need to try your hardest to understand, get him to eventually talk about it (preferably to a professional) and pretty much avoid all triggers — like war movies. You will be inundated with more random facts about places like the Middle East or the South than you care to cram into your brain. I won a round of trivia just because I knew the currency in Bahrain. I am a sucker for someone who is passionate about his work. They are modern day heroes; if that’s not something to be proud of, I’m not quite sure what is! Basically, dating a Generation Y military man is no different than dating anyone else. His may be unimaginable to you, but that does not make him any better or worse.Fun facts are everywhere, and it doesn’t hurt for you to sound more worldly too! Dating a service member is not all fun and games; it takes a lot of work and patience, but if you are interested in the person and not just the uniform, then he is definitely worth the pursuit.
Do you want to turn the tables and have them chasing you instead?
Okay, so you may still be wondering what’s wrong with that… I detest anything having to do with war, especially the ill-motivated Middle East conflict.
I had done the long-distance thing before and was very hesitant to have one with a soldier in a war zone.
Just keep in mind that the chances of him wanting to open up and talk about it — let alone seek help — are slim to none, at least at first.
This will be trying for you, but imagine how he feels. Military men have likely traveled to parts of the world you have not, and can tell you facts about different cultures/countries/states. Military men are used to being thrown into countries and situations with which they are unfamiliar, so when traveling, always expect to have a great navigator around.